Why is it that some chics are more attracted to guys that are taken yet our counterparts don't even seem to care about that specific aspect of the dating scene? Is it that we're SO caught up with that idea that we are challenging our "unknown rivals" since their men are somewhat more "interested" in us and we're the new target? What happens after we step into the "girlfriend/partner" shoes? Don't we become just as "stale" as the previous chic? Or is it that we absolutely want to become perfect at getting guys to cheat?!
Well, it seems as if nowadays, many women think that men - married, committed or simply
in a relationship (whether open or "closed" as that
ever-so-special social networking site called
facebook) - are just more "attractive" than most single ones. Now, my question is: WHY IS THAT?
Who ever thought that single guys are too boring or lack spontaneity? Is this even proven? I sure think not!
Everyone knows that there are two sides to a story, so why have the guys not spoken much about it either? Is it a case of "the truth hurts" or "the truth will set you free" so that they don't wanna discuss it at all?
Hmmm... much to ponder about, huh.
Still, I must put my two cents in here: females on the whole need to be a tad more considerate when dating or attempting to date a guy who is already in a relationship, especially if he's also married.
Check the following reasons I came up with:
1) If he's already on the prowl (at a bar, club etc), then why the heck is he hitting on you even if it's for the fun? He should be hanging out with the "wifey" at that SAME spot, trying to spice things up a little, for Heaven's sake! It just goes to show that he might as well be not SO ready for that level of commitment after all. So, what makes you think that he'd change after getting it on with you?
2) Even if you've exchanged numbers and email addresses, I don't think there's a problem with that BUT he still doesn't have the right to holla at you for a booty-call... and vice-versa! Also, you as the smarter of the both sexes (not wanting to sound too feminist here) should know better than to condone something as lowly as that. Period.
3) Once there are kids involved, as in a marital relationship or not, that is a definite no-no for me! As a young woman, I do not intend to "strangle" my life with a guy who already has batted all over his crease without the necessary gear, and I sure as ever don't intend to continue in that sorta trend he's apparently got going on (concerning those with more than 2 children). Therefore, it is mandatory that he remain off limits at this point. Wish him luck with the future and MOVE ON! Unless you like it and are ready for the consequences, then by all means: GO BRAVE! Simple as that.
The bottom line is that girls and boys aka men and women (physically mature or not but surely mentally) should be able to properly and clearly lay out the ground rules for dating each other when becoming newly-acquainted. However, it doesn't mean that as soon as you meet up with someone (chic or guy) that has a ring on their finger, you scatter-off like a mouse who's being chased by a cat; bear in mind, "asking questions is a good way [if not the best, in my opinion] to find out something" so go ahead and inquire as to their "partner status". After all, it's how you begin to get to know what both you AND that possibly significant other are really and truly about, but if they're simple not your type, that's another story.
Remember, it's the little things that count.
Toodles til loodles!
sjb
